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Last Updated: September 30, 2026
Quick Answer: Why Do I Feel Like I’m Not Good Enough?
If you keep asking, “Why do I feel like I’m not good enough?”, the answer is rarely that you are actually inadequate. More often, the feeling comes from a combination of self-critical thinking, comparison, past experiences, perfectionistic expectations, rejection, difficult relationships, or repeated situations that taught you to judge yourself harshly.
Low self-worth can also become a habit of interpretation. A mistake becomes “I’m a failure.” Someone else’s success becomes “I’m falling behind.” Constructive feedback becomes “They finally see that I’m not good enough.” Over time, these interpretations can feel like facts even though they are not objective measurements of your value.
The way forward is not to convince yourself that you are perfect. A healthier goal is to develop a more accurate and compassionate view of yourself: recognize your strengths, acknowledge your limitations without turning them into an identity, challenge unfair self-judgments, take meaningful action, and seek professional support when persistent low self-worth is affecting your life.
That “Not Good Enough” Feeling Can Be Hard to Explain
You may have done well at work and still feel like an impostor.
You may have loving people around you and still wonder whether you are worthy of being loved.
You may receive a compliment and immediately think:
“They don’t really mean it.”
You may accomplish something important and then move the goalpost.
“That wasn’t that difficult.”
“Anyone could have done it.”
“I only succeeded because I got lucky.”
And then one small mistake can seem to confirm everything your inner critic has been saying.
This is one of the most exhausting parts of low self-worth: positive evidence gets explained away while negative evidence feels completely convincing.
The problem is not necessarily a lack of achievement.
Sometimes the problem is the standard you are using to decide whether you are worthy of feeling good about yourself.
If the standard is perfection, comparison, constant productivity, attractiveness, approval, money, status, or never disappointing anyone, you can achieve a great deal and still feel like you are failing.
What Does “I’m Not Good Enough” Actually Mean?
The phrase can mean different things to different people.
For one person, it may mean:
“I’m not successful enough.”
For another:
“I’m not attractive enough.”
Someone else may think:
“I’m not a good enough partner, parent, friend, employee, or child.”
Sometimes the feeling is even broader:
“There is something fundamentally wrong with me.”
That last belief is especially painful because it turns individual experiences into a judgment about your entire identity.
There is an important difference between:
- “I made a mistake.”
- “I am bad at this.”
- “I am a failure.”
- “I am fundamentally not good enough.”
The first statement describes an event.
The last statement turns an event into an identity.
Healthy self-esteem does not require believing that you are exceptional at everything. It means being able to recognize both strengths and weaknesses without reducing your entire worth to either one.
The NHS describes self-esteem as the opinion we have of ourselves and notes that low self-esteem can cause people to see themselves and their lives in an increasingly negative and critical way.
Self-Worth, Self-Esteem, and Confidence Are Not Exactly the Same
These terms are often used interchangeably, but separating them can make the problem easier to understand.
Self-Confidence
Confidence is usually connected to your belief that you can perform a particular task.
You can have low confidence in public speaking while being highly confident in cooking.
Self-Esteem
Self-esteem refers more broadly to how positively or negatively you evaluate yourself.
Self-Worth
Self-worth refers to the deeper question of whether you believe you have value as a person.
These areas influence one another, but they are not identical.
You can be highly capable and still have poor self-esteem.
You can fail at something without losing your sense of personal worth.
That distinction is important because the goal is not to become confident at everything.
The goal is to stop using every mistake, rejection, comparison, or limitation as evidence that you are fundamentally inadequate.
Why Do I Feel Like I’m Not Good Enough? 9 Common Reasons
1. You Learned to Measure Yourself Through Other People’s Approval
Some people become highly sensitive to approval because acceptance has felt uncertain or conditional at different points in their lives.
You may have learned to monitor other people’s reactions:
- Are they happy with me?
- Did I disappoint them?
- Are they upset?
- Do they still like me?
- Did I perform well enough?
Over time, external approval can become a measuring stick for internal worth.
When someone approves of you, you feel temporarily safe.
When someone criticizes you, your entire sense of yourself may drop.
This creates a fragile form of self-esteem because your emotional stability depends heavily on circumstances you cannot control.
2. You Compare Yourself With Other People Too Often
Comparison is a normal part of human thinking.
The problem is not that you ever compare yourself with someone else.
The problem is when comparison becomes your primary method of deciding whether your life is valuable.
You may compare:
- Your career with someone else’s career
- Your appearance with someone’s carefully selected photographs
- Your relationship with another couple’s public image
- Your finances with someone’s visible lifestyle
- Your progress with someone else’s milestone
- Your ordinary Tuesday with someone else’s best moment
Comparison also removes context.
You see the result but rarely see the full history behind it.
Someone may be ahead of you in one area and struggling badly in another area you cannot see.
Your life does not become a failure because someone else’s life looks impressive.
3. Perfectionism Has Turned Success Into a Moving Target
Perfectionism can look like ambition from the outside.
But internally, the experience can be very different.
You finish one goal and immediately create another.
You receive good feedback but focus on the one criticism.
You achieve 95% and think about the remaining 5%.
You make one mistake and mentally replay it for days.
When perfection is the requirement for feeling worthy, there is no finish line.
You are allowed to have high standards.
But high standards become painful when they are combined with the belief:
“If I don’t meet this standard, I am less worthy.”
4. Past Rejection May Still Influence How You See Yourself
Rejection can be deeply personal.
A relationship ends.
A job application is rejected.
A friend excludes you.
A parent criticizes you.
A teacher makes you feel incapable.
A group decides you don’t belong.
One painful experience does not objectively define your worth. But repeated experiences of rejection can influence the beliefs you carry forward.
You may start anticipating rejection before it happens.
And when you expect rejection, you may interpret ambiguous situations negatively.
Someone does not reply immediately:
“They don’t care about me.”
Your manager asks to speak with you:
“I must have done something wrong.”
Your partner seems quiet:
“They’re probably tired of me.”
The emotional reaction can be real even when the interpretation is uncertain.
5. You Were Taught to Focus More on Mistakes Than Strengths
Some environments emphasize correction far more than encouragement.
If you repeatedly heard what you did wrong but rarely heard what you did well, you may have learned to scan yourself for problems.
This can become an automatic habit.
Instead of asking, “How did I do?” you immediately ask, “What did I mess up?”
That habit is changeable.
The NHS recommends identifying negative beliefs and deliberately looking for evidence that challenges them rather than treating every critical thought as fact.
6. You Are Extremely Self-Critical
There is a difference between self-reflection and self-attack.
Self-reflection says:
“That conversation didn’t go well. What could I do differently next time?”
Self-attack says:
“I always ruin everything.”
The first response can lead to learning.
The second often creates shame without providing useful direction.
If you would never speak to a close friend the way you speak to yourself, that is worth noticing.
7. Your Current Life May Not Match What Matters to You
Sometimes “I’m not good enough” is actually a different problem.
You may be living according to goals that no longer feel meaningful.
You may have achieved what you were told would make you happy, only to discover that the achievement itself did not resolve the deeper question of what you want your life to mean.
This can happen during career changes, relationship transitions, parenthood, retirement, relocation, or other major life stages.
If your deeper question is actually “What am I doing with my life?”, improving your productivity may not solve it.
You may need to reconnect with your values.
LoveAHH’s guide on why you may feel like you have no purpose explores this related experience in more depth.
8. Difficult Relationships Can Erode Self-Trust
When someone repeatedly criticizes, dismisses, humiliates, controls, or undermines you, it can become harder to trust your own judgment.
You may begin asking:
- Am I too sensitive?
- Am I asking for too much?
- Was that really my fault?
- Maybe I am difficult to love.
- Maybe I should just try harder.
Not every relationship difficulty means emotional abuse. Healthy relationships include disagreement, mistakes, frustration, and repair.
But a consistent pattern of contempt, humiliation, manipulation, or control deserves serious attention.
For broader relationship guidance, see Healthy Relationship Foundations.
9. Depression or Anxiety May Be Affecting How You See Yourself
Low self-worth can sometimes be part of a larger mental health problem.
For example, depression can involve persistent sadness or emptiness, loss of interest or pleasure, fatigue, concentration difficulties, feelings of worthlessness or excessive guilt, and changes in sleep or appetite.
That does not mean feeling inadequate automatically means you are depressed.
Context matters.
If negative self-beliefs are persistent, intense, or accompanied by other symptoms that interfere with everyday life, professional assessment is more useful than trying to diagnose yourself from an article.
13 Signs You May Be Stuck in a “Not Good Enough” Pattern
One sign alone does not mean that you have low self-esteem. Look for patterns that happen repeatedly.
- You dismiss compliments almost immediately.
- You focus on one mistake despite many things going well.
- You compare yourself with other people throughout the day.
- You feel guilty when you say no.
- You constantly seek reassurance.
- You avoid opportunities because you might fail.
- You procrastinate because starting feels like a test of your worth.
- You set standards that you would consider unreasonable for someone else.
- You feel threatened when another person succeeds.
- You assume criticism says something about your entire character.
- You apologize excessively for ordinary needs or mistakes.
- You have difficulty identifying what you actually want.
- You feel that you must achieve, please, or perform to deserve love and respect.
These patterns are not proof that you are broken. They are habits of thinking and behaving that can be examined and changed.
The Most Important Shift: Separate Your Identity From Your Performance
Imagine two people receive the same disappointing performance review.
Person A thinks:
“There are things I need to improve.”
Person B thinks:
“This proves I’m not good enough.”
The external event is similar.
The meaning assigned to it is different.
This is why rebuilding self-worth does not mean convincing yourself that you never fail.
It means learning to interpret failure without turning it into an identity sentence.
Try changing:
- “I failed, so I’m a failure.” → “I failed at this attempt.”
- “They rejected me, so I’m unlovable.” → “This relationship or opportunity did not work out.”
- “Everyone is ahead of me.” → “Some people are ahead of me in certain areas.”
- “I’m terrible at everything.” → “I’m struggling with this particular thing.”
- “I need everyone to like me.” → “I want to be respected, but universal approval is impossible.”
This is not pretending that everything is fine.
It is making the language more accurate.
How to Stop Feeling Like You’re Not Good Enough
1. Catch the Thought Before You Believe It
The first goal is not to eliminate negative thoughts.
It is to notice them.
When your mind says:
“I’m not good enough.”
add a few words:
“I’m having the thought that I’m not good enough.”
This creates a small amount of psychological distance.
The thought is still there, but you are no longer treating it as a verdict.
2. Ask: What Happened, and What Am I Telling Myself It Means?
This is one of the most useful questions in the entire process.
Write two columns:
What happened
My manager asked me to revise part of the report.
What I told myself it means
My manager thinks I’m incompetent.
The first statement is an observable event.
The second is an interpretation.
Sometimes the interpretation will be correct.
Sometimes it will not.
The goal is to give yourself enough space to find out.
3. Look for Evidence, Not Just Feelings
Feelings are real experiences, but they are not always accurate measurements of reality.
If you feel like nobody appreciates you, ask:
- Who has shown care recently?
- Who trusts me?
- Who asks for my help?
- Who has thanked me?
- What responsibilities have I handled successfully?
You are not trying to collect evidence that you are secretly perfect.
You are correcting an incomplete picture.
4. Build a “Small Evidence” List
At the end of each day, write down three things that provide evidence about who you are.
They do not need to be impressive.
- I kept a promise.
- I listened to someone.
- I finished a difficult task.
- I apologized when I was wrong.
- I took care of myself.
- I tried something uncomfortable.
- I helped someone.
- I rested instead of pushing myself unnecessarily.
The goal is not positive thinking.
The goal is learning to notice the evidence your inner critic habitually ignores.
5. Practice Self-Compassion Instead of Self-Indulgence
Self-compassion does not mean telling yourself that every decision you make is good.
It means responding to your own difficulties without unnecessary cruelty.
For example:
“I made a mistake. I don’t like what happened. I can take responsibility without attacking myself.”
That is very different from:
“I’m such an idiot. I always ruin everything.”
Research on self-compassion suggests that interventions focused on self-compassion can reduce symptoms of depression, anxiety, and stress, although the evidence has limitations and should not be interpreted as proof that self-compassion alone treats mental illness.
6. Stop Using Impossible Standards
Ask yourself:
“Would I expect a person I love to meet this standard?”
If your answer is no, consider whether the standard is serving you.
You can still want to improve.
You can still pursue excellence.
You can still admit that you have weaknesses.
You simply stop making perfection the entrance fee for self-respect.
7. Practice Accepting Compliments Without Arguing
When someone says:
“You did a great job.”
try not to immediately explain why they are wrong.
You can simply say:
“Thank you. I appreciate that.”
You do not have to feel completely confident when you say it.
You are practicing allowing positive information into your self-image.
8. Do Things That Build Self-Trust
Self-worth is not rebuilt only by thinking differently.
Your behavior matters too.
Make small promises to yourself and keep them.
- Take the walk you said you would take.
- Finish the task you committed to.
- Go to bed when you said you would.
- Say no when you genuinely cannot do something.
- Ask for help when you need it.
- Follow through on one small personal goal.
Every time you keep a reasonable promise to yourself, you receive evidence that you can trust yourself.
9. Do Something Slightly Outside Your Comfort Zone
Avoidance can make self-doubt stronger.
If you constantly avoid situations because you fear being judged or failing, you never get the opportunity to discover that you can cope.
Choose something small.
Speak during the meeting.
Apply for the opportunity.
Ask the question.
Join the class.
Set the boundary.
You do not need to feel confident first.
Confidence often develops through repeated experiences of acting while uncertain.
10. Reduce Comparison Triggers
You do not necessarily need to delete every social media app.
Instead, pay attention to what happens after you use them.
If a particular account consistently leaves you feeling inferior, anxious, or dissatisfied with your life, unfollowing or muting it is a reasonable form of self-care.
Replace some comparison-based content with things that genuinely interest you: hobbies, learning, nature, creativity, or meaningful communities.
11. Spend More Time With People Who Treat You With Respect
Your environment matters.
Healthy relationships do not require constant praise. They can include disagreement and honest feedback.
But you should generally be able to express needs, make mistakes, and have boundaries without being repeatedly humiliated or devalued.
Connection can also provide corrective experiences: being listened to, accepted, respected, and appreciated can challenge old beliefs about yourself.
12. Clarify What You Actually Value
Ask yourself:
“If nobody could see my life, what would still matter to me?”
Maybe the answer is family.
Maybe creativity.
Maybe learning.
Maybe kindness.
Maybe freedom.
Maybe stability.
Maybe helping other people.
Once you know what matters, create small actions that express those values.
Your life becomes less dependent on constantly proving that you are impressive.
13. Get Professional Support When You Need It
If low self-worth is deeply entrenched, therapy can offer something that self-help articles cannot: a relationship in which your patterns can be explored carefully and in context.
Cognitive behavioral approaches can help people examine unhelpful beliefs and behavioral patterns. Other therapeutic approaches may also be appropriate depending on the person’s history and needs.
You do not need to wait until you are completely overwhelmed before seeking help.
As the NHS notes, talking therapies such as counseling and CBT can help people with persistent low self-esteem.
What If I Feel Like I’m Not Good Enough in Relationships?
Relationships can intensify self-doubt because another person’s response can feel like a direct measurement of your worth.
You may think:
- “If my partner really loved me, they would never get frustrated with me.”
- “If they leave, it proves I’m not lovable.”
- “I have to be easygoing all the time.”
- “I should never need too much.”
- “Someone better will eventually replace me.”
These beliefs can create a difficult cycle.
You become afraid of rejection.
You suppress your needs.
You seek reassurance.
You become highly sensitive to small changes.
Your partner feels pressure.
You interpret that pressure as proof that you are difficult to love.
The cycle becomes self-reinforcing.
A healthier relationship does not require you to be flawless.
It requires two people who can communicate, repair mistakes, respect boundaries, and remain interested in each other’s experience.
If relationship insecurity is a major part of your experience, you may also find LoveAHH’s guide to healthy relationship foundations useful.
What If I Feel Like I’m Not Good Enough at Work?
Work can make self-worth particularly vulnerable because performance is constantly evaluated.
You may receive:
- Performance reviews
- Deadlines
- Comparisons with colleagues
- Promotions or rejections
- Corrections from managers
- Salary differences
- Public praise or criticism
It is easy to turn professional performance into personal identity.
Try separating three questions:
1. How am I performing?
This can be evaluated and improved.
2. What skills do I need to develop?
This gives you something concrete to work on.
3. What is my value as a human being?
This cannot be answered by a performance review.
Your work can tell you something about your current skills.
It cannot provide a complete measurement of your worth.
Why Positive Affirmations Sometimes Don’t Feel Believable
If your internal belief is:
“I am worthless.”
and you suddenly repeat:
“I am the most amazing person in the world.”
your mind may reject it immediately.
That does not mean affirmations are useless.
It means that believable statements can sometimes be more useful starting points.
Instead of:
“I am perfect.”
try:
“I am allowed to be imperfect and still respect myself.”
Instead of:
“Everyone loves me.”
try:
“I don’t need everyone to approve of me.”
Instead of:
“I never make mistakes.”
try:
“Making a mistake does not make me a bad person.”
The goal is not to replace one unrealistic belief with another.
The goal is to become more accurate and fair in how you evaluate yourself.
What Not to Do When You Feel “Not Good Enough”
Don’t Turn Self-Improvement Into Self-Punishment
Learning new skills can be healthy.
Constantly trying to become acceptable enough to deserve love is exhausting.
Don’t Chase Approval From Everyone
No matter how carefully you live, someone will disagree with you.
Universal approval is not a realistic goal.
Don’t Pretend Criticism Never Matters
Self-compassion is not refusing feedback.
If you made a mistake, take responsibility.
If someone offers useful criticism, consider it.
Then decide what you want to do with it.
You can learn from criticism without turning it into self-hatred.
Don’t Wait Until You Feel Worthy to Start Living
This is an important trap.
You may think:
“Once I become confident, I’ll apply.”
“Once I lose weight, I’ll date.”
“Once I’m successful, I’ll relax.”
“Once I stop doubting myself, I’ll start living.”
But waiting for complete confidence can keep you stuck.
Sometimes action comes first.
Self-trust grows afterward.
A 7-Day Practice for Rebuilding Self-Trust
Day 1: Notice Your Inner Critic
Write down three self-critical thoughts you have during the day.
Day 2: Separate Facts From Interpretations
Choose one thought and write down what actually happened versus what you assumed it meant.
Day 3: Record Three Small Strengths
Write down three things you handled reasonably well. They do not need to be impressive.
Day 4: Accept One Compliment
Do not explain it away. Simply say, “Thank you.”
Day 5: Do One Uncomfortable but Healthy Thing
Make the phone call, ask the question, set the boundary, or take the small opportunity you have been avoiding.
Day 6: Spend Time With Someone Safe
Choose connection over isolation.
Day 7: Ask What You Want to Build
Instead of asking, “How do I become good enough?” ask, “What kind of person and life do I want to build?”
This changes the focus from proving your worth to living according to your values.
When “I’m Not Good Enough” May Need Professional Attention
Occasional self-doubt is part of being human.
Persistent and intense self-devaluation is different.
Consider talking with a doctor or mental health professional if you regularly experience:
- Persistent feelings of worthlessness
- Loss of interest or pleasure in activities
- Persistent sadness or emptiness
- Severe anxiety or constant worry
- Major changes in sleep or appetite
- Difficulty concentrating
- Withdrawal from people you care about
- Difficulty working or managing everyday responsibilities
- Increasing reliance on alcohol or other substances to cope
- Thoughts about death, suicide, or self-harm
These symptoms do not automatically mean that you have a specific mental health condition. But they are reasons to seek a proper assessment rather than trying to solve the problem entirely through self-help.
If You Are Thinking About Suicide or Self-Harm
If “I’m not good enough” has become “I don’t deserve to be here,” “people would be better without me,” or thoughts of suicide or self-harm, please treat that as an urgent concern.
You do not have to figure it out alone.
Contact a local emergency service, crisis service, doctor, therapist, or trusted person who can stay with you while you get help.
If you are in the United States, you can call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
If you are elsewhere, contact your local emergency or crisis service.
If you are in immediate danger, call emergency services or go to the nearest emergency department.
Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I feel like I’m not good enough even when I succeed?
Achievement does not automatically change the way you interpret yourself. If your internal standard keeps moving, each success may provide only temporary relief before another comparison or criticism appears. Building a more stable sense of self-worth requires separating your value from individual achievements.
Why do I always compare myself to other people?
Comparison is a normal human process, but it becomes harmful when it is repeatedly used to determine whether you are valuable. Try shifting from “Am I better or worse than them?” to “What do I actually want, and what matters to me?”
Is low self-worth the same as low confidence?
No. Confidence usually relates to your belief that you can handle a particular task. Self-worth is broader and concerns how you value yourself as a person. You can lack confidence in one area while still having healthy self-worth.
Can childhood experiences affect self-esteem?
Yes. Early experiences and messages from parents, teachers, peers, and other important people can influence how you learn to evaluate yourself. But those early experiences do not permanently determine your self-worth. The NHS notes that low self-esteem can begin in childhood but can also change through new experiences and healthier ways of thinking.
Why do compliments make me uncomfortable?
A compliment can feel uncomfortable when it conflicts with your existing self-image. If you believe you are inadequate, positive feedback may feel exaggerated or undeserved. Instead of arguing with the compliment, try simply accepting it: “Thank you.”
Can self-compassion really help?
Research suggests that self-compassion is associated with psychological wellbeing, and meta-analyses of self-compassion-focused interventions have found reductions in symptoms such as depression, anxiety, and stress. However, the quality and design of studies vary, so self-compassion should be viewed as a useful practice or complementary approach rather than a universal treatment.
Can therapy help with feeling like I’m not good enough?
Yes. Therapy can help you identify recurring beliefs, examine evidence for and against them, understand where they came from, and practice different ways of responding. CBT is one approach that may be useful, although the appropriate treatment depends on the individual.
How long does it take to rebuild self-worth?
There is no reliable universal timeline. Some people notice changes relatively quickly when they begin challenging self-critical patterns. Deeper patterns may take longer, particularly when they are connected with longstanding relationships, trauma, depression, or other mental health difficulties. Progress is usually better measured by how you respond to self-doubt rather than whether self-doubt disappears completely.
Can social media make me feel less good about myself?
It can contribute to comparison and dissatisfaction for some people, particularly when use repeatedly exposes you to content that triggers negative self-evaluation. Rather than assuming social media is always harmful, pay attention to how specific accounts and patterns of use affect you.
What is the difference between healthy humility and low self-worth?
Humility allows you to recognize your strengths without believing you are superior to others. Low self-worth minimizes your strengths and may turn ordinary limitations into evidence that you are fundamentally inadequate.
Related LoveAHH Guides
- Emotional Healing: Simple Practices to Restore Inner Calm
- Why Do I Feel Like I Have No Purpose?
- Why Do I Feel Stuck in Life? Root Causes and Ways Forward
- How to Find Inner Balance in a Busy Life
- Mindfulness for Everyday Life
- Healthy Relationship Foundations
- Letting Go of Stress
Authoritative Sources & References
- NHS — Raising Low Self-Esteem
- National Institute of Mental Health — Depression
- American Psychological Association — APA Dictionary: Self-Compassion
- PubMed — Effects of Self-Compassion Interventions on Depressive Symptoms, Anxiety, and Stress: A Meta-Analysis
- PubMed — The Relationship Between Self-Compassion and Well-Being: A Meta-Analysis
- PubMed — The Effectiveness of Compassion Focused Therapy With Clinical Populations: A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis
Medical Disclaimer
This article is for general educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Feeling inadequate can have many possible causes, and an online article cannot determine what is happening in your individual situation. If persistent self-doubt is interfering with your daily life, relationships, work, or wellbeing, consider speaking with a qualified health professional.
Final Thoughts: You Don’t Have to Prove That You Deserve to Exist
The question “Why do I feel like I’m not good enough?” can become so familiar that it starts to sound like your own voice.
But a familiar thought is not necessarily a true thought.
You may have made mistakes.
You may have things to learn.
You may have qualities you want to change.
You may not be where you hoped you would be at this point in your life.
None of those facts requires you to turn against yourself.
You can take responsibility without humiliation.
You can improve without hating who you are now.
You can accept criticism without accepting every judgment attached to it.
You can want more from your life without deciding that your current self is worthless.
Perhaps the healthier question is not:
“How can I finally become good enough?”
Perhaps it is:
“How can I learn to see myself more accurately, treat myself more fairly, and build a life that reflects what actually matters to me?”
That is a much more sustainable kind of growth.
You do not need to become perfect before you are allowed to respect yourself.
You can begin from here.
One thought.
One boundary.
One honest conversation.
One small promise kept to yourself.
One moment in which you notice the old voice saying, “You’re not good enough,” and answer:
“Maybe I’m still growing. But I don’t need to attack myself to grow.”
That is not giving up on yourself.
It is finally learning how to stand on your own side.
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